babysitter Part 2

In relations of my entry here, i would like to continue with part two of this pungent topic. Upon posting my entry 4 years back, i received countless emails from mommies asking me who was i reffered too, because they can relate to this person, if it bound to be the same person.

In my defence, i am sharing all the information for parent in my neighbourhood so that they could expect the unexpected. Not that i want to deprecate anybody. My aim here is to help parent in need.

I (or we) have first time experience towards finding the right babysitter I believe. For me, it was toughest and frustration. I have to pull myself to survive. Finding the right babysitter is a nightmare for me, and ecspecially first time mom to endure this. It is a tiring process.

and finally, when you find the babysitter, after a while she's not the one anymore hehe. truth hurt.

So what to expect when you choose a particular babysitter?

1) You talk to her. Make time to talk a no sweat conversation before going into serious business. From this point you could develope a theory on what kind of person she is. When I first started searching for the daycare, I met this one lady whos very rude when talking towards me. Your intuition never went wrong mamas.  After sending my son for halfday trial, I withdraw him. 

The character that i am searching for while having this simple initial conversation is loving and caring. You could find in the way she's talks. When I was first sending my Ali for playschool (this is a different case), I straight away make this conversation with the principal, asking 10 question-non-stop hahaha. She's soft spoken but firm and very lovely towards kid.Scored!

2) House visiting. This is compulsory. Here in Malaysia, we don't have laws for unregistered babysitter (now they have, but i do not see the full implementation). The cleaniness of the house is number 1. Next is how many babies does she is handling. And another most important thing is her husband/whoever she is living with is not a smoker. No! Never tolerate with this smoker thing.

3) Explain your timetable, ecspecially the out of norm. For example, you have to do site visits once a month which involve lateness in picking up the kids. Mention to her, what time you usually arrives. Never hide anything. Simply tell the correct information and ask for the feedback if thats okay with her. And if you are living in KL and Selangor, don't forget to count the bad traffic on rainy days!!!

4) Payment. This is some sensitive issue. Or it because involves monetary? both sides have to be clear enough about the monthly fees, extra charge for late, yadda yadda. It is costly and complicated that you have to have a good base of discussion. And once a while buy her something special as rewards or bonus.

5) Emergency leave. My first babysitter (the one that I mention in the previous post) alwaysssss have the emergency with her. Like she will text me at 2 a.m saying she has to take leave. Of course, I read it around 6 and find myself dumb for a while. Yes, we ALL have an emergency. But the thing is how we cope with the situation. And another thing how you categorized emergency situation in life.

If your kids have the 39-degree fever, that's emergency. If you are bleeding suddenly, that's emergency. If your parent/sibling warded, that's emergency.

If your uncle pass away. Is it an emergency? Or you have wisdom tooth came out painfully, is that emergency?

we have sooo many misunderstood about emergency and abused it.

So ask your babysitter, if there any emergency, would she willing to cooperate to wait for your arrival even it is late (because you are in the audit committee meeting)? or does she has any babysitter around for replacement?

Personally, the babysitter is someone who just like one of your family members. You care for them, you make joke with them, you share with them, just because you guys related to this minion. Everyday, taking care of children not only involve patient and time, but it is also must contain so much loves and caring. And treat every job with the highest responsibility. Deepest gratitude, because it is where part of your rezeki come from.

I am writing this for like 4 week already, trying to put my words appropriately. If you have anything two cents worth, kindly drop your comment. And if this hurt anybody I profusely apologize. 

Hello March, Kindly make a consistent blogger! 

See you in the next post.